Introductions

August 3, 2019

Hi there, my name is Aemi. Thank you for visiting my page. I don’t know who you are, but if you are reading this, then someone (probably myself) has directed you to this blog. Now, before you start wondering - no, Aemi is not my real name. I don’t know who will read this blog or where it will end up, but the things I am writing about are incredibly personal and true events. I don’t want to run the risk of leaving identifiers. Not for my sake, I’m an open book. However, our community is small enough that you might run across some of the people I am going to talk about. For their sake, I will be changing everyone’s  name. 

That being said, I do have a favor to ask you: please do not search for who they are. These are just stories I want to share with you about my life. As I am writing this introduction, I don’t know the ending. Hopefully, I get to share with you some funny anecdotes. 

Why am I doing this? Well, that’s simple: I love to write. I’ve been keeping a journal for over 10 years, since I was in 10th grade. I have just recently started my 8th volume! Thank you, Ms. Scorpio (not their real name), for giving me the notebook that turned into my first volume and for fostering a love of free writing. That’s the simple reason. The complex reason is that growing up in the Malayalee culture, I was always taught to keep private things private. Don’t talk about unnecessary things to people because “alkar enthu vijarikkum?/what will people think?” Well honestly, I don’t care what people think! 

Life isn’t all about the good things we share with people, it’s also the bad things we try to sweep under the rug. No one’s life is perfect, least of all mine. So I want to tell you all about the ups and downs and excitements and frustrations I am going through as I’m travelling along the next stage in my life: getting married. I’m creating a digital archive of my experience as it happens in almost real-time. These are the stories of missed connections, matches that did not go through, dates that went well, and everything in between. 

Here is the general plan for this blog: about once a week, I am going to write about the things that happened that week, with regards to the whole marriage thing. It won’t be just proposals, but also my thoughts and feelings about the subject, my point of view on what’s happening, and just a peek into my life. Sometimes I may share other people’s stories if I feel it’s appropriate (with the names changed). It will get posted about a month after I write it. Even though it’s a free write blog, I’m not about to share something without it going through a quality check or two. 

I don’t know how long this project will last. Ideally, I would like to take it up to my marriage…but let’s see if it gets to the first post. So sit back, get comfortable, and enjoy the ride through my life. See you all next time. 

- Aemi